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I have discovered a group of women who I agree with about parenting....
They are the childfree community.
Do not get me wrong here. I do want kids, but their tke on parents and parenting has got my seal of approval.
I have seen some truely hellacious parenting in my time. and their take on the parenting side of things is absolutely with my own. I believe in disciplining. I believe in time outs and not inflicting massive doses of bad behaviour on the general public (I can understand certain situations, I can understand apologising for certain things that are beyond any parents control.)
What I don't get is not taking a five year old temper tantrum out of the shop giving him a few sharp words and telling him his BS just cost him x or y or z. My parents did this. I expect most parents do. But there is this rarified breed of parent that are asinine and stupid. They allow the behaviour, or reward the behaviour in order to get it to cease, which doesn't help them cause the kid learns exactly what to do to get his desired result and learns to manipulate and control through shitty behaviour.
Maybe I am wrong because I haven't got kids. But I have seen parents either squish their childs self esteenm and wonder why they hate their parent, or find that they behave like little shits to get somethign and become again little shits. What the fuck happened to discipline and knowing that there are boundaries. And what happens when those kids grow up and finds that there are societal boundaries too. Something that has been a hitherto unmentioned concept. good luck for the rest of society when that ticking time bomb erupts.
I can understand why some women want to be childfree, and I applaud them for their descision. I'm not sure if I could decide to be childfree. There is a part of me that wants children. But there may be a time when it turns out that I can't. Its at that time that there is a decision. Do I try everything known to man, including surrogacy and adoption, or do I give up and take pleasure in those around me? Its a huge thing I supose.
The one thing I do know I want to do, is to insert disciplin in my child's - should I have one - life. And I am going to sympathise with my childfree sisters when the idiot version of parents comes near me. Because I bloody well wanna smack the parent when they are acquiescing or ignoring bad behaviour.
And before anyone asks. No I am not thinking of any parents I actually know. I am thinking however of the asshole chavs of Sutton and croydon, who have zero control over their kids, make no apologies when their kids dash infront of you and do not chastise the kid either I watch where I go most of the time. But getting tripped up pisses me off I have had it 4 times today alone. Not to mention the parents who make walking in a restaurant a fucking obstacle course. None of them were conscientious enough to tuck the puchschair out of the way, but did leave it in the middle of the gangway, and looked at anyone saying excuse me can you move this so I can by as though you had asking them to open a vein and give them all teir money.
I guess this weekend just pissed me off, and the behaviour of the chavtastic fuckwads in my area have just really gotten to me.
They are the childfree community.
Do not get me wrong here. I do want kids, but their tke on parents and parenting has got my seal of approval.
I have seen some truely hellacious parenting in my time. and their take on the parenting side of things is absolutely with my own. I believe in disciplining. I believe in time outs and not inflicting massive doses of bad behaviour on the general public (I can understand certain situations, I can understand apologising for certain things that are beyond any parents control.)
What I don't get is not taking a five year old temper tantrum out of the shop giving him a few sharp words and telling him his BS just cost him x or y or z. My parents did this. I expect most parents do. But there is this rarified breed of parent that are asinine and stupid. They allow the behaviour, or reward the behaviour in order to get it to cease, which doesn't help them cause the kid learns exactly what to do to get his desired result and learns to manipulate and control through shitty behaviour.
Maybe I am wrong because I haven't got kids. But I have seen parents either squish their childs self esteenm and wonder why they hate their parent, or find that they behave like little shits to get somethign and become again little shits. What the fuck happened to discipline and knowing that there are boundaries. And what happens when those kids grow up and finds that there are societal boundaries too. Something that has been a hitherto unmentioned concept. good luck for the rest of society when that ticking time bomb erupts.
I can understand why some women want to be childfree, and I applaud them for their descision. I'm not sure if I could decide to be childfree. There is a part of me that wants children. But there may be a time when it turns out that I can't. Its at that time that there is a decision. Do I try everything known to man, including surrogacy and adoption, or do I give up and take pleasure in those around me? Its a huge thing I supose.
The one thing I do know I want to do, is to insert disciplin in my child's - should I have one - life. And I am going to sympathise with my childfree sisters when the idiot version of parents comes near me. Because I bloody well wanna smack the parent when they are acquiescing or ignoring bad behaviour.
And before anyone asks. No I am not thinking of any parents I actually know. I am thinking however of the asshole chavs of Sutton and croydon, who have zero control over their kids, make no apologies when their kids dash infront of you and do not chastise the kid either I watch where I go most of the time. But getting tripped up pisses me off I have had it 4 times today alone. Not to mention the parents who make walking in a restaurant a fucking obstacle course. None of them were conscientious enough to tuck the puchschair out of the way, but did leave it in the middle of the gangway, and looked at anyone saying excuse me can you move this so I can by as though you had asking them to open a vein and give them all teir money.
I guess this weekend just pissed me off, and the behaviour of the chavtastic fuckwads in my area have just really gotten to me.