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angel_jane) wrote2005-10-07 01:56 am
angel_jane) wrote2005-10-07 01:56 am
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Things i have learnt from a bad relationship
Communication is cricial
affection, away from sex, is essential
Undermining me by sating you wanna fuck others or watch me fuck others is way off of what i want. either shut it, or get stuff.
When I am scared of a losre guy leaving I will read this and remember that I am an independant and strong woman, with opinions that should be valued by ANY man wishing to become a part of my circle! ( I only have one female friend in RL, all others are Male)
Go with my instincts. When I met Richard My ex I realised he wasn't my type, but he kissed me and abng I was more interested in him all of a sudden. Shoulda listened. Will in the future.
I am an attractive woman. I have attracted people before, I have attracted since. And i attract me too!
Being quiet is not my way of saying something is up. It is my way of saying I am happy in a persons company enough to allow both myself and them to relax.
Belittling me when I am worried (genuinely or not) is not good. I will not stand for it.
Calm people beget a calm Angela!
Pain fades, friends matter.
Making me drama based cause I am scared iof a guys leaving is giving him my personal power.
Fear of leaving? Fuck it they can leave! I'll live, I'll live large!!!
Ignoring the person I am, the things that matter to me, and being self sacrificing are not guarentors of a successful relationship, the are guarentors of a failure, and at least one person being un happy.
I know what i want from a sexual relationship. I know what I want from a straight up relationship. They are not mutually exclusive, and I willl not settle for one or the other. I would rather have less sex thand 3 or 4 times a week make it half that and more affection, consideration and understanding. Than feel like a fuck buddy.
I don't want to be a fuck buddy.
I am a valueable person.
Single does not equal miserable. Single equals being happy enough in ones skin to be choosy about prospective partners!
Drama Begets drama begets drama. I will not participate in it. I am above that. If I am paniked by something it is because I need help understanding it. and therefore I will ask for it.
Who would have thought a shit relationship would have delivered that much info and that much understanding of myself. As I used to say when youngerand didn't realise how true it were. "You gotta get through the shit. to get to the good stuff, and be able to tell the difference."
affection, away from sex, is essential
Undermining me by sating you wanna fuck others or watch me fuck others is way off of what i want. either shut it, or get stuff.
When I am scared of a losre guy leaving I will read this and remember that I am an independant and strong woman, with opinions that should be valued by ANY man wishing to become a part of my circle! ( I only have one female friend in RL, all others are Male)
Go with my instincts. When I met Richard My ex I realised he wasn't my type, but he kissed me and abng I was more interested in him all of a sudden. Shoulda listened. Will in the future.
I am an attractive woman. I have attracted people before, I have attracted since. And i attract me too!
Being quiet is not my way of saying something is up. It is my way of saying I am happy in a persons company enough to allow both myself and them to relax.
Belittling me when I am worried (genuinely or not) is not good. I will not stand for it.
Calm people beget a calm Angela!
Pain fades, friends matter.
Making me drama based cause I am scared iof a guys leaving is giving him my personal power.
Fear of leaving? Fuck it they can leave! I'll live, I'll live large!!!
Ignoring the person I am, the things that matter to me, and being self sacrificing are not guarentors of a successful relationship, the are guarentors of a failure, and at least one person being un happy.
I know what i want from a sexual relationship. I know what I want from a straight up relationship. They are not mutually exclusive, and I willl not settle for one or the other. I would rather have less sex thand 3 or 4 times a week make it half that and more affection, consideration and understanding. Than feel like a fuck buddy.
I don't want to be a fuck buddy.
I am a valueable person.
Single does not equal miserable. Single equals being happy enough in ones skin to be choosy about prospective partners!
Drama Begets drama begets drama. I will not participate in it. I am above that. If I am paniked by something it is because I need help understanding it. and therefore I will ask for it.
Who would have thought a shit relationship would have delivered that much info and that much understanding of myself. As I used to say when youngerand didn't realise how true it were. "You gotta get through the shit. to get to the good stuff, and be able to tell the difference."